Stress

Stress is usually from our judgments. We judge something as bad or wrong or terrible or unjust. Then we create lots of uncomfortable feelings inside ourselves, and they add up to stress.

What happens when we don't judge, but accept things as they are?  We may want them different, but not get angry or fearful or stressed about it. 

This used to seem impossible to me.  I thought if I wasn't upset, it meant I didn't care. I thought if I wasn't upset, I wouldn't make any effort to change things.

Now I know that I can care very much and not be stressed about a situation.  Without the stress I have a lot more energy to do what I can to change a situation.

Autism as an Opportunity

Autism has given many parents the opportunity to learn more about themselves as people and parents. Impossible as it seems, having and autistic child can be the opportunity that helps parents learn how to create better lives  and better relationships for themselves and their families.

I have counseled many parents who are now having delightful relationships with their autistic children, spouses and others.

It starts with unconditional love for yourself as well as your child. Believing that each one of us is doing the best we can, with our beliefs and awareness at the time. Letting go of judgments frees parents to interact with their child in a very different and more effective way.

I mentor parents using the Option Process and information from the Son-Rise Program. I have found Skype very effective for counseling with people from different parts of the world.

You may want to check out Option.org or Son-Rise.org.